An Interview with Karen Spaiches
How long have you been doing what you do and how did you get to be a mentor to women, especially those who feel lost and want something more from their life?
Sharing my story is the best answer to that question. I was lost and confused and ready for change. I had a successful management/leadership career complete with an office and a nice salary. I have a wonderful husband and two beautiful boys, getting ready to leave the nest. But, here’s the thing, I wasn’t satisfied. What was wrong with me?! People would love to have my life!
I no longer enjoyed planning/cooking dinner, baking for my boys, creating in my craft room, reading, exercising, nothing! These were the things that always made me happiest. I felt lost and knew that there was something else that I was really put here on this beautiful earth to do.
I did some real soul searching and realized that there was only one way to feel better and return to a life that I love. I needed to take accountability for what I wanted. Nothing or no one else could do this for me. I took stock in my career and assessed what it was that I really enjoyed about going to work each day. I realized it was the people that I served, my team. I loved working and dreaming with them to discover what their talents and purpose are. I felt honored and blessed to listen as they shared their ideas and dreams. I encouraged them to push ahead to places they never thought they could go. I was grateful for being there when they realized their dream. They never believed in themselves and all it took was for me to believe in and support them.
You see, I realized, that is my gift to the world. I listen, can hear what is not said and I am truly excited to help others realize dreams that will make them happy. Then, working with them to create goals and achieve that dream!
In January 2015, I chose to take a course in life coaching and became certified in February 2015. Throughout this course, I kept saying to myself, “This is what I do! I know how to help others realize their dreams!”. Unfortunately, my job didn’t allow me to do this full-time. I had to be accountable to financial results. At one time, the financial results charged me. But, now, it no longer fueled my passion and purpose. I wanted to be a leader, a people’s champion!
But, I couldn’t imagine giving up my job, how would we live? My husband’s company doesn’t offer health insurance. Can I really do this on my own? What about this, what about that? I am sure you recognize these reasons or excuses that we all make when faced with life changing decisions.
Then, one day, I listened to an online interview with a Purpose and Success Coach and my life was forever changed! I signed up within 24 hours of my discovery call. She helped me get clear on what my “gift” was and within three months, I shifted my beliefs and opened my mind to new possibilities that negated all of the internal and external obstacles that I thought were in the way of achieving my dreams and what was possible for me!
By July 2015, I decided to quit my job after 24 1/2 years. I turned my resignation in on August 4th and have not looked back. I have rediscovered myself and who I am. I reawakened my love of reading and writing, I am back cooking for my family (who are very appreciative by the way!), I am back to being creative and exercising every day.
Most important, I am happy. I do deserve to reach my goals and dreams just like my team did and my clients do. I am more grateful for the small things in life and I am learning to live more simply and actually enjoying it! I have learned there is always a solution to a problem, it just depends on how important the problem/solution is to you to solve and whether or not you are willing to open your mind to alternative possibilities.
I hold my clients accountable to the blueprint we create, collaborating together to define small, achievable milestones and then ensuring that they stay on track to reaching those milestones. My leadership background was the perfect training for being your accountability partner.
What is the #1 question your clients ask?
How can I be happy? The fast answer, self-awareness. My question back is, What do you want and why? Until those questions can be answered honestly and from the heart, happiness is elusive.
My clients struggle with feeling like there is something else “out there” in the world that they were meant to do. They struggle with feeling stuck in the status quo and want to experience life in new and different way. Yet, new and different are elusive to my clients. They are lost in their lives and long for help in finding their way. Without help, they continue to follow the same paradigm that we all suffer from, the “when this, then that” paradigm. In other words, they stick in the world of “good enough”. How many times have you told yourself, when this happens, then I will be happy? Such as, when my kids get a little older, I can spend more time exercising, when I get promoted to the next level or make more money, I will be happy in my career, when my husband finishes this project at work, we can get back on track with our relationship… The list can go on and on.
My clients need someone to help them understand the time is now! YOU deserve to do this for yourself which in turn helps your relationships, career, health and well-being. You are happier, more fulfilled and confident in what you are here for.
My clients need to know that someone believes in their dream, without judgment. They need someone to support them and hold them accountable to completing the steps to realize their vision. We often rely on our family or friends to help us “self improve” and hold us accountable or we think we can do it ourselves. The problem is that your friends and family already have a bias towards your actions. And when you try to do it on your own, you start out “guns ablazin’” but then old habits kick back in after a few weeks. For example, if your goal is to lose 50 pounds, it’s important that you follow your nutrition and exercise milestones. But, like any human, there are days when you are tired or stressed and just don’t feel like making something good to eat or going to the gym. Your friend, significant other, whoever you are relying on, will most likely feel sympathy for you and tell you, it’s ok to skip today, just make sure you go tomorrow. If the goal is really important to you, you are looking for someone that will hold you accountable and motivate you to get to the gym.
My clients need to know how to get out of their own way and own who they want to be and the life they truly desire. I help my clients take their dreams and goals that they feel others may see as silly or not important, and create small, achievable steps towards achieving those goals. They want to feel heard and feel like they can accomplish anything they set out to do!
How can people bring more fulfillment or joy to their lives RIGHT NOW?
By learning to “stop and smell the roses”, creating a gratitude practice that allows you to see the beauty and abundance you already have in your life. I encourage you to go to my Free Gift page and download my ebook, Gratitude: An Experience In Everyday Miracles. add link here! I have personally received the gift of joy and happiness through creating my own gratitude practice. It has increased my confidence, provided me courage and allowed me to see life through a new set of “eyes”.
I am grateful for the opportunity to pursue joy each day. I let go of a life of gratification from material and external sources and embraced a life of simplicity centered around gratitude. I am grateful for a supportive family, who applauded my courageousness to leave the safety of my career and embark on my soul journey. I am grateful to live my own life, on my terms.
What if I am not sure what my dreams or goals are anymore?
Here’s the thing. If you are reading this, you most likely know that you have a dream or unrealized goals, they have just been simmering on the back burner because, hey, life happens. At the start of the program, we will work together to strategize and create a clear vision of what it is that you want. Don’t worry, we will reawaken or redefine those dreams to fit where you are today, but I guarantee you, you know what your dreams and goals are. Your transformation and realization of these goals will happen much more quickly through working one on one with me.
What is your passion and deepest hope for your clients?
My passion is listening to what other’s want in their life and help them realize that they can have it. It’s not saved for the “lucky” or the rich or the smart or whatever it is that you tell yourself. It’s about learning to be courageous, shifting mindsets and letting go of the good to make room for the great in your life!
The best part of fulfilling my passion of coaching is watching the reawakening of my clients, watching them shift from limiting, negative mindsets and beliefs to being courageous, powerful, passionate and energized! My gift is to give that to my clients through support, conscious listening and accountability to their defined goals. That, my friends, is my deepest hope!
How can I sample your work to see if it’s right for me?
A great way to to sample my work is to bookmark my website, where I post different stories and articles, sharing tips, tools, techniques to create an authentic and happy life. I’d love to have you share my space! Also, when you download my ebook, you will also be signed up to receive my weekly ezine, full of actionable content and tips, delivered to your inbox every Thursday.
I have been featured as a guest blogger on AspireMag.net and I am a contributing author in two International Best Sellers, Opening to Gratitude and Grace and Midlife Transformation.
What if I want to work with you one-on-one with you, can I call you?
Yes, of course!!!! If you are interested, I have created a complimentary “discovery session” that helps us know very quickly if we would be a good match for working together. You can easily contact me by email or phone (585)330-7280 and I will be happy to talk with you!
I can’t wait to see you succeed and reawaken your most deepest desires. I would be honored to be the one to help you!